For when you don’t know what to say
From a party where you only know the host to asking for a raise. Every moment has its own page.
Small talk 9 moments
- You’re at a party where you only know the host
- At the coffee machine with a coworker you barely know
- A silent car ride with someone you don’t know well
Saying no and boundaries 7 moments
- A coworker asks “got a sec?” and you don’t
- A friend asks to borrow money
- Your manager adds another project to your plate
Work and interviews 6 moments
- “Tell me about yourself” in a job interview
- “What’s your greatest weakness?”
- “What are your salary expectations?”
Dating and friendship 5 moments
- The first minute of a first date
- A text conversation that’s dying
- Making a friend after class or practice
Rescuing awkward moments 3 moments
- You forgot their name
- Leaving a conversation that won’t end
- Your joke falls flat
See all 30
Small talk
- You’re at a party where you only know the host
- At the coffee machine with a coworker you barely know
- A silent car ride with someone you don’t know well
- At a networking event where you know no one
- You run into a neighbor in the hallway
- Dinner with your partner’s family
- School pickup, surrounded by other parents
- Lunch on your first day at a new job
- They keep giving one-word answers
Saying no and boundaries
- A coworker asks “got a sec?” and you don’t
- A friend asks to borrow money
- Your manager adds another project to your plate
- Your family expects you over every Sunday
- You’re invited to a party you don’t want to go to
- A salesperson won’t take no for an answer
- A friend asks you to help them move
Work and interviews
- “Tell me about yourself” in a job interview
- “What’s your greatest weakness?”
- “What are your salary expectations?”
- You can’t get a word in during a meeting
- You want to ask for a raise
- “Do you have any questions for us?”
Dating and friendship
- The first minute of a first date
- A text conversation that’s dying
- Making a friend after class or practice
- Reaching out to a friend you’ve drifted from
- Giving a compliment without it being weird
Rescuing awkward moments
- You forgot their name
- Leaving a conversation that won’t end
- Your joke falls flat
Four parts. Read what you need.
What do you say when…
30 situations. For each one: three lines to say, what to avoid, why it often gets stuck and an example conversation.
30 days of courage
A small mission every day. You pick the level: easy, medium or brave.
How a conversation works
9 short lessons, from starting and following up to saying no and going deeper. Each lesson has a visual, examples and an exercise.
Why you freeze up
5 insights from research. For example: after a first conversation, the other person usually likes you more than you think.
Also: a page for when you need help right now, your own toolkit and all 25 sources.
- Strangers talked for 5 minutes. Afterward, they rated the other person 5.8 out of 7 on average. They thought they’d only get a 5.2 themselves.Boothby et al., 2018
- People who asked more questions, especially follow-up questions, were liked more.Huang et al., 2017
Here’s what it looks like
Real pages from the book.
Is this for you?
- You sometimes freeze up around people you don’t know well.
- You want to know what to say, not just why it feels hard.
- You’d rather practice in small steps than all at once.
- You’re looking for help with anxiety or low mood that gets in the way of daily life. Talk to a doctor about that.
- You want a thick book full of theory. This is a practical book for your phone.
Good to know
When do I get it?
Right away. A minute after you pay, you get an email with your download links.
What does it cost?
$19, tax included. Ehm in your pocket is $7 extra if you want it. You see the full amount before you pay.
How do I get the book?
After you pay, you get an email with your download link. You don’t need an account.
Does it work on my phone?
Yes. It’s a PDF in phone format. It also works on a tablet or computer.
I already have the free PDF. What’s different?
The free PDF has 10 lines. This book has 30 situations, each with three lines and an example conversation. It also has 9 lessons and a 30-day practice plan.
What’s Ehm in your pocket?
An optional 17-page extra for $7, for right before you walk in somewhere. You get 8 cards with your goal and your first line, 16 messages and 3 lock screens. You can only get it together with the book.
Does this replace a psychologist?
No. Ehm Club makes practice material for everyday awkward moments. Does anxiety get in the way of daily life? Talk to a doctor about it.